Marriage counsel this situation? plz!?

Last night my husband called me a ***** because I didn’t want to have . Tonight, should I just ignore him or should I treat him. If I ignore him our whole night will just be ruin; he’s dramatic. He says he’s not happy with me. If I treat him I feel like I’m reinforcing his negative word calls and how he hurts me emotionally. What should I do that would impact him to not hurt me so much.?